What it feels like to be beautiful? Or how’d we know if someone is beautiful? Was there a standard created so that one girl can check that she’s beautiful? Or was it only based on people’s standards?
Living in this generation, I have known a lot of standards to be able to fit in to the word “beautiful”. You should be fair-skin and flawless; hair must be straight, smooth, and silky; you must be in size 0 or contain body stats of 36-24-36; and you must have the latest iPhone or highlighter makeup. The list goes on. Whatever they see on the screen, whatever they see on their celebrity crushes, they automatically accept it until it became a norm.
I really don’t understand the fact that whatever they see on their idols is beautiful, and whatever they see on a normal person is disgusting. Those celebrities are once normal persons, right? Until now I bet, but the thing is so many girls are having a hard time to fit in to this norm; some of them have been encountering depression, eating disorder, intense insecurities, losing self-esteem, and worse they commit suicide. Do their celebrity idols know about this? Do they have an idea that their fans are almost losing their self to be able to reach what they know beauty? Sad but true, the beauty they know is the ugliest and scariest thing I’ve been seeing now.
I’m not in a place of hating. I actually am not hating anyone, I’m just basically concerned about these girls who’s their time getting consumed by hours in front of the mirror before leaving their houses; not a day they’d cake-up their faces, not a day they’d pick up the best of their best attire for their daily OOTD, and not a moment they’d nearly bankrupt their bank accounts just to buy what’s the latest trend. Where do these girls get their quality of beautiful? Based on how many likes they’ll get on their Facebook profile picture? Followers on Instagram and Twitter? Praises from different guys they barely know? Do they know that whatever they do they are effortlessly beautiful?
I was once an insecure girl. I get insecure if someone I know is really beautiful; if they have those dress I’ve been eyeing for a long time, or if they have what I have been dreaming to have. My time has been consumed thinking how I would get those kinds of smiles, hair, and body until I end up feeling hopeless. I’ll never have it and I’ll never be accepted by the world of beautiful. Self-pity arises as my self-esteem goes down, but not until I met the only ONE who sees me more beautiful than how I see myself, the ONE who values me far more precious than any rubies in this world, who made me feel secured not on how’d I look like to many people, but how’d I look like in His eyes, the ONE who created the real meaning of beautiful.
A bible verse once said, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” (1 Peter 3:3-4) This verse tells it all – God doesn’t look on our physical appearance; He doesn’t look on what kind of OOTD you have right now, or if your eyeliner is a little way off. He looks straight to our inner self; to our hearts and minds, to our pure intentions to other people, and to our actions. A physically beautiful woman is significantly irrelevant if her inner self is lacking. Click To Tweet A real beauty is when a woman knows that whatever she wears, how she looks like without makeup, how she looks like with those fat belly or acne, still feels beautiful about her because she has that glowing heart – she has that security on God that only He could appreciate the real beauty. Only He would really know the real standard of the word beautiful, and not this world.
I want every woman to know that they are all beautiful. They are way beautiful enough to even try harder, we are all effortlessly beautiful. We are precious than rubies in His eyes because we are His creation and all of His creations are beautifully made. If you are struggling to fit in to this world, I hope that you will be reminded that God loves every acne you have, every fats you’re hiding, every scars and split-ends you have. God sees you way more precious than how this world sees you. If this world has been telling you that you’re not belong, they are foolish, because to God, you are a princess; you are high valued and you are bought with a price. Click To Tweet You are beautiful; it may take time to meet a guy who will look at you just like how God look to you, but when that time comes, you know it’s real because it is heaven sent.
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”
– Proverbs 31:30
Disclaimer: This is originally posted on my Tumblr dated January 2, 2015. Posted only due to the relevance of the topic, grammatical errors and few points were edited.